Nails In The Wall

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I recently got a message from a dear friend and I was deeply touched when i read her LM and I hope you learn from this piece as I ploy you to read all the way down to the last sentence. (Most importantly the last sentence)

There once was a little boy who had a bad temper, his Father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the wall.

The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the wall. Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the wall.

Finally the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the wall, he said, ‘You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the wall! the wall will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one.

Once you hurt loved ones It won’t matter how many times you say I’m sorry, the wound will still be there. A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one, remember that friends are very rare jewels indeed, they make you smile and encourage you to succeed; They lend an ear, they share words of praise and they always want to open their hearts to us.

Show your friends how much you care.

***Send/share/forward this to everyone you consider a FRIEND including your FAMILY (they need to know you love them too), If it comes back to you, you will know you have a circle of friends. I share this with you because YOU ARE MY FRIEND AND I AM HONORED!

Please forgive me if I have ever left a hole in your life.

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How Merciful Are We

 We don’t always have to talk about cancer do we? :)…I am so eager to share some of my mum’s teachings here too. Read on… “The Lord is gracious, and full of compassion; slow to anger, and of great mercy.” (Psalms 145:8 KJV)

The mercy of God makes you victorious! What is mercy? Mercy is love in action. It is more than an attitude and much more than feeling sorry for people. It entails doing something. “God is kind and merciful, slow to get angry and full of love.“Psalm 145:8. You must be merciful. You may ask how do I know if I am showing mercy? There are four marks of mercy. You can evaluate yourself to see how merciful you are.

1. If I am merciful, I will be patient with those who are peculiar.
I believe that in every life some things may not go your way or be the way you want them.  How do you handle those kinds of “difficult” people? What does the Bible say? 1 Thes. 5:14 “…Encourage the timid, help the weak, and be patient with everyone.” Are you patient with everyone? The Bible says if I am merciful, I will be patient with those who are peculiar. How can you be patient with those who are peculiar? First you must study their background.

When you understand a persons background, you stop judging them and even make excuses for their flaws because you have a better understanding of what they have been through. It makes you a little more patient. You look beneath the external behavior and look at the internal pain because behind every peculiar behavior, there is some form of loneliness, hurt, depression, or a kind of anxiety that God says we need to look at. The Bible says, “Accept each other, in the Lord, even as Christ has accepted you.” Merciful people are tolerant and they have a large heart. They are neither quick to criticize or judge.

2. If I am a Merciful person, I will forgive those who have fallen.
When people make mistakes, do you rub it in? Or you rub it out? When people let you down, do you hold it over their head for the rest of their life, never letting them off the hook? That is not mercy. “Be gentle and ready to forgive, never hold grudges. Remember the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.” Colossians 3:13

The amazing thing about forgiveness is when you are called to receive it, it feels so right but when you are called to give it, it feels so wrong.  Most of us would say “I do not want to forgive people, I want justice, “You do not need justice, you need mercy!” If you are patient, you will forgive those who have fallen. It is a lot easier to criticize than it is to sympathize. Many of us are guilty of pointing fingers instead of lending a helping hand.

Be merciful, tolerant, patient and forgiving. Imbibe the habit of being merciful and you will enjoy tremendous victory.

Part 2 of this teaching coming soon.

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Letter from Baer

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A remarkable 15 years young Baer, cancer survivor I have come to know, wrote me recently. Its a long letter, It was so beautiful I just had to share it:

“if I could tell you anything about cancer it is this… It has been the worst and most incredible thing that has happened to me. My name is Baer, and i am a 15yr old AML (Acute Mylogenic Leukemia) cancer survivor. My story goes like this. It all started at my first high school track meet on ST. Patrick’s day, 2009. That morning I woke up feeling the sickest I had ever felt. My mom thought I should push myself and go anyway, because I didn’t tell her how sick I really was. So I ran, but my time was lousy. I felt awful afterward and started to cough blood.

That was the first physical symptom I had, and for the next two weeks I just got worse and worse because I was usually pretty healthy. Nobody, including myself, was very concerned until my blood test results. The doctor told my mom to take me right to the emergency room because he was very concerned about my cell count. When we got there, they took my blood again and told my family and me that I had leukemia.

I was told my treatment would last 6months all in the hospital. They started me on chemotheraphy the day after I was admitted. Then a few days later it started to hit me and that’s when I had an epiphany. God came to me one night while I was crying in my mom’s arms. I kept saying “this is too hard, I don’t think I can do this.” I had never felt so afraid in my life. So I just started to pray. I asked God right then and there how I was going to make it through this. Out of nowhere I said, “Trust in me….Mom, God just told me to trust in him.”.

From that moment on I knew if I trusted him through this, everything would turn out fantastic. I was hospitalized for the next four months. I suffered the worst pain I ever thought a person could take. The chemo, bone marrow, and spinal tabs were routine, I lost 20 pounds and all my hair. I had to face the fact that I might die. I saw other kids go through crazy things and didn’t understand why.

Even though it was the hardest thing I had ever done, my situation seemed so much better than others. My doctors said I wouldn’t be able to eat, I would spend a lot of time in the ICU for infections, and I wouldn’t be able to go home during treatment. But I ate three meals a day, got only one infection, and was able to go home for short visits. Before now it seemed like my belief in God was something done out of fear…kind of like “hell insurance” in the back of my mind I had always thought that there was a possibility God might not even exist. Sometimes when I would hear people speak at church about their experiences with God. I thought they believed in it so much that it just seemed real to them.

What happened to me with cancer totally changed my perception and my relationship with God. Now I know that God exist for sure, and no matter what, I cannot be convinced otherwise. God has shown me that the thing I feared most (Death) can be as wonderful a gift as life is. If we didn’t have death, life would not be as important or enjoyable. I can really say that I am not afraid Now. God helped countless times overcome all my fears and walked me through the hardest time of my life. God truly does work in mysterious ways. I know now that we cant take life for granted; we have to work hard and enjoy it as much as we can.

I feel like my life is the greatest gift that has been given to me. I’m living a dream that gets better everyday. I love what I have and I love what he has given me. That goes for all mistakes I have made, and all the bad things that have happened to me, because if my life went any other way, it would not be as wonderful as it is right now.

What a blessing it is to realize that God is in charge of what ever happens, that he can make good use of whatever we have to endure..

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Family is Everything

IMG_20130615_00183857A dear Aunt sent this to me today and decide to share with you guys, “Delighted with the world of things and creatures, happily celebrating the human family” (Proverbs 8:31)

Family relationship is God’s idea,  family goes beyond the marriage relationship. The family is a union of relations in different capacities, biological, spiritual, professional, school-mates and even co-tenants are a kind of family. When you are traveling, your fellow passengers are your family members at that point in time. You cannot celebrate family if you are not a “people person”. God expects you to love people and be delighted in them. The opening scripture says we should celebrate our human family.

Celebrating your family begins with acceptance. You cannot celebrate what you do not relate with, if you see every family member as a gift from God you will be able to accept them. Family members are a blessing from the creator and you must accept them, even the devil hates God’s idea of establishing families and He paints evil pictures of family members just to bring disunity and division in the family relationship. Your family members may not be perfect but you must accept them. “Friends love through all kinds of weather, and families stick together in all kinds of trouble”. (Proverbs 17:17 MSG)

Love is the bedrock to stable a family, you cannot have a great family without love, no matter how bad your family members are, cover them. Love covers a multiple of sins; be protective your family members, stick to both your nuclear and extended family members, be friends with your relatives instead of promoting enmity. Do not allow any situation, circumstance, prophecy, business, friends, money etc divide your family.

Make your family members your best friends and be committed to their welfare. Listen to them, forgive them promptly whenever you have issues and pray for them regularly. As you celebrate your family from glory to glory, you will enjoy unlimited victory in every area of your life! this made me remember an African proverb which says “in the process of seeking more friends, we can not at same time look for enemies

I implore you today to send a love message to your biological, spiritual, professional and family members. I hope this blessed you as I have been blessed :)

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Reflecting on God’s ways

serenityGod is good, God is good, that’s something I’ve come to know. And here’s another thing i know, God heals I know this not just because I’ve read it in the bible or met others who have been healed. I know it because he is working a miracle of healing in my life, though its taking a little differently than i expected but every step and stage its still a bonafide, praiseworthy, hallelujah inspiring miracle.

Today I wrote this down in my dairy “this is the best day of my life because its the beginning of my healing, I have a lot ahead of me. I know God is with me every step of the way and will hold me when am weak” Looking back, I realize I had no idea what actually lay ahead of me when I first heard the word “CANCER” hours and hours of chemo and radiation, bushels of hats and scarves, gallons of pills, two comas, one year so far of boils. Agony, chubby cheeks, endless exhaustion, the works, but yet every single word I wrote in my diary today I see it coming to pass and I see God healing me.

Healing is mysterious, and its hard to avoid wondering why God heals one person and not another, or why he heal one person spontaneously and heal another through a long process of medicine and prayer. I am not sure I’ll ever fully gasp the answers to those questions but as I pondered the mysteries of healing, I have found it helpful to look at the gospels, to look at the way Jesus went about his ministry of healing and consider what that might tell me.

I’m not the first person to recognize that healing is not necessarily cure, but I think its true. God’s desire for us is total healing for our bruised emotions, our traumatic memories, our troubled minds, our sin-sick souls, as well as for our breakable bodies, also as well as our ongoing growth and the furthering of his kingdom. He wants us strong, pure, unselfish, courageous, and kind, and he will do whatever is necessary to accomplish that goal. If curing our physical ill’s is the best way to help us move forward, he will cure us. If our total healing is best served by letter us suffer a little while or even by letting us die, he will do that, too.

In all I have come to understand that God doesn’t want any of us to be sick, although he is willing to let us be sick in order to accomplish other purposes. He has compassion on our pain, and when we come to him for help, he will heal us, but the way that healing is accomplished might be a surprise, it might not happen the way we think or on our timetable we expected, it might not even be completed in a life time. God heals, but he will always do it his own ways..

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Teresa of Ávila

 

Teresa of Avila

From my sojourn so far in cancer-land, I have learned a new truth that Teresa of Ávila wrote more than four hundred years ago:

Christ has no body now on earth but yours; yours are the only hands through which he can do his work, yours are the only feet with which he can go about the world, yours are the only eyes through which his compassion can shine forth upon a troubled world. Christ has no body now on earth but yours

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Stronger Confidence

There is a little anonymous poem that is passed around a lot of cancer circles, its posted on clinic bulletin boards and written in cards shared over the internet. It even has several different versions and i haven’t a clue who wrote the original or even which version was the first, but i think it holds a lot of wisdom not only for cancer patients but for anyone going through tough times. Here is how it goes:

Cancer is so limited
It cannot cripple love.
It cannot shatter hope.
It cannot corrode faith.
It cannot eat away peace.
It cannot destroy confidence.
It cannot kill friendship.
It cannot shut out memories.
It cannot silence courage.
It cannot invade the soul.
It cannot steal eternal life.
It cannot quench the spirit.
It cannot lessen the power of resurrection.

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